Purchase tickets here: https://www.strangertickets.com/events/182913247/oops-harm-reduction-intimacy-and-learning-in-kink

Scenes are made and broken by how you adapt to the unexpected. Sometimes this means heading off or recovering from a major problem, but much more often it's small things. Did you notice that the other person is having a harder time than usual with one of their favorite toys? Why did you feel angry when the one thing happened and what did you do about it? Remember that time you made a radical pivot mid-scene and it was awesome? How do you respond to a broken whatever?

Nothing ever goes exactly the way you planned. External events happen, gear fails, ramifications occur.  We run with something that's working unexpectedly well. We try new things and do them imperfectly or discover the fantasy was hotter. People make mistakes and are complicated. You can pre-think safety, own what happens, make course corrections, communicate, and choose to learn. These are things you can do before, during, and after play to decrease the risks of harm, and increase the benefits of error.

This class will include presentation on skills, and talking through real-life incidents small and large to practice the skills . Many of the incidents will be accompanied by video. Some of Russell's many imperfect moments have been recorded by camera crews, which provide a unique opportunity to dissect exactly what happened, why, how our awareness developed, what we did about it, and how that worked out.

Some of this material can be emotionally challenging, but you will come away from the class with tools for when you encounter the unexpected in your scenes.
 

Important Information:

• Pay-what-you-can scholarships, funded by 4Culture, are available for all Pan Eros Foundation workshops. If you need financial assistance, please email Leah at assistdirector@pan-eros.org
• No late entry will be allowed due to the intimate nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
• Water available. Please bring your own cup or bottle.
• Open to all 18+
• Attendance is limited to 40 people.
• All sexes, genders, races, ethnicities, bodies, body types, sexual orientations, relationship orientations, abilities welcome and celebrated.
• Please let us know by email if you have any access needs or things that would aid in your learning.
• Questions may be directed to: assistdirector@pan-eros.org

About the Educator:

Russell Harmon has lots of practice learning from mistakes. He runs a BDSM porn site named Lovingly Handmade Pornography.

Purchase tickets here: https://thestranger.boldtypetickets.com/events/186926176/truth-love-and-sex-getting-to-know-you

You’ve met. Now what? In this workshop we’ll explore how we reveal ourselves and invite others to do the same. This workshop will combine lecture and group participation to discuss:

• Truth: exploring ways of communicating and self-assessment
• Love: handling rejection and group ritual
• Sex: improv of communication possibilities based on participants’ input

By the end of this workshop, participants will know how to:

• Identify various ways of sharing/hearing in communication
• Share and invite others to share rather than “dump”
• Check their own expectations, assumptions, and boundaries
• Respond rather than react 

Other Important Info:

• Pay-what-you-can scholarships, funded by 4Culture, are available for all Pan Eros Foundation workshops. If you need financial assistance, please email Leah at assistdirector@pan-eros.org
• No late entry will be allowed due to the intimate nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
• Water available. Please bring your own cup or bottle.
• Open to all 18+
• Attendance is limited to 20 people.
• All sexes, genders, races, ethnicities, bodies, body types, sexual orientations, relationship orientations, abilities welcome and celebrated.
• Please let us know by email if you have any access needs or things that would aid in your learning.
• Questions may be directed to: assistdirector@pan-eros.org

About the Educators:

Kristen Knapick: I am Kristen Knapick, MA, LMHC, a psychotherapist in private practice in Seattle. I specialize in working with those for whom kink/poly/sex work/queerness/gender variance are a part of life, whether the source of a problem or not. My lengthy experience as a member of all of these communities gives me a unique, nonjudgmental perspective on mental health within them, and my professional training has sharpened my skills. Please visit http://kristenknapick.com for more info on my practice. 

Mistress Matisse: Mistress Matisse has been a beloved Seattle dominatrix for over twenty years. She has taught classes on sexuality and BDSM across the country.

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Relationships with dominant/submissive dynamics are so widely varied, each one is different from the next. That’s the incredible beauty and liberation of D/s relationships — they are designer, highly customized, made to order for exactly the people who are in them right now. However, that can also be the challenge: how do you customize a D/s relationship to exactly what you want? In this D/s intensive, we will cover the major building blocks of D/s relationships, so you can decide which ones are the right fit for you. We'll have lots of time to present and discuss concepts (with some nerdy charts and graphs), and we'll do some experiential somatic practices to feel our dynamics in our bodies. 

You will learn:

• How to identify your relationships' Areas of Control
• How to set up protocol for fun, for function, for erotic pleasure, and for long term training
• Somatic exercises for transitioning in and out of dynamic
• Maintaining D/s when going through hard times, physically disability, or major changes
• and more!

This intensive is geared toward folks who are new to D/s, but people who are experienced with D/s relationships are very welcome and will learn new concepts and structures to enhance their dynamics. This intensive will focus on the foundations and building blocks of D/s, so some more advanced topics won't be covered. We'll have plenty of time for discussion and Q&A, where you can bring your particular questions to Sinclair and to the group.

Important Information:

• Pay-what-you-can scholarships, funded by 4Culture, are available for all Pan Eros Foundation workshops. If you need financial assistance, please email Leah at assistdirector@pan-eros.org
• No late entry will be allowed due to the intimate nature of this workshop. Doors will be locked at 10 minutes after the start time.
• Water available. Please bring your own cup or bottle.
• Open to all 18+
• Attendance is limited to 40 people.
• All sexes, genders, races, ethnicities, bodies, body types, sexual orientations, relationship orientations, abilities welcome and celebrated.
• Please let us know by email if you have any access needs or things that would aid in your learning.
• Questions may be directed to: assistdirector@pan-eros.org

About the Educators:

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer trans butch, a leather dominant, and a writer, focusing on individual, interpersonal, and institutional systems of power. They study dominance and submission, social & restorative justice, the energetic body, trauma, and transformation. They have been in the kink communities since 1999, and orchestrate transformative kink scenes through written erotica and ritual practice. They actively explore the philosophies of power exchange and the practicalities of sustainable, long term D/s. As a leather community member, titleholder, and organizer, Sinclair has presented and performed 200+ times at 75+ venues, including International Ms. Leather, Dark Odyssey, SXSW, Harvard, and Oz Kink Fest. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they have edited 7 queer erotica anthologies. Find Sinclair online at http://sugarbutch.net/find-sinclair

TRU (she/her/they/them) is a genderqueer kinkster who loves to geek out on sex and intimacy and strives to understand and de-clusterfuck the impacts of systemic oppression on all bodies. Tru understands that embodiment practices cannot be separated from social justice work, and they believe individual and collective liberation happens one body, one breath at a time. Tru’s curiosity and wide range of interests are evident in the work they offer — as a Sacred Intimate, sex and intimacy coach, a dancer, teacher of a movement mediation practice, a potter, and a lawyer. They have facilitated workshops focusing on intimacy, touch, BDSM skills, dance, and clay, as well as provided diversity and anti-oppression trainings. Some trainings that inform Tru’s work include: Sacred Intimacy Through a Tantric Lens; Theater of the Oppressed Facilitator training; Betty Martin’s Like a Pro; Open Floor teacher training; and the action-based methodology of psychodrama. Tru uses ritual, touch, dance, and art in their work, and loves using their body for exploration, learning, and general shenanigans. As a multi-racial genderqueer body, Tru understands what it feels like to not belong to any particular place or culture, and what it means to re-write the stories we have about identity, sex, and the right to experience deep embodied pleasure and joy. See more of Tru's work at tenderfiercetemple.com.

Tickets go on sale July 31st.
 
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